vr_trakowski: (metaphor)
Up until a few weeks ago, my mother had a cat.  

The Shadow was informally adopted from a family whose dogs were a bit too much for an elderly declawed* feline.  She adapted without visible upset to my parents’ house and habits, and spent the next few years sitting on boxes, demanding food early in the morning, and occasionally hitting Mom up for pets.  

She wasn’t the cat my mother wanted, being independent and rarely cuddly, but she would sometimes sleep on Mom’s hip at night, and quickly learned that the physical therapy exercises that required lying down put Mom’s hand at the perfect height for scritches.  

Recently The Shadow’s thyroid issues got worse, and my mother had to let her go.  Apparently she passed peacefully, without fear.  

We don’t really know her history; she was already at least eleven years old when Mom adopted her.  She was quite content, but never seemed to bond with my mother, simply accepting everything as her due.  

Which is why it’s a little surprising that she’s still around.  

I haven’t spotted her yet myself, but Mom sees her pass by on occasion, on some ghost-feline business intent.  Why her, out of the six cats that have dwelt there over the decades,** we do not know.  But, y’know, she’s welcome.  

I’m just waiting for my dad to notice her.  *evil grin* 

*She came that way.  We would never.  

**My money would have been on Secondhand Rose, who ruled the house with an iron paw, but oh well. 



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So I did a wee bit of family research today, since my parents were trying to nail down some dates.  I’m the family memory for years people died, but there are some gaps, and I went looking for a photo of my grandfather’s grave marker (found it, too).  


But then I started wondering.  My grandfather’s middle name was Morse, and my father didn’t know why.  I looked up Gramps’ parents, and hey, his mother’s middle initial was M!  Maybe it was a family name…?


But I couldn’t find an entry that listed her full name.  So I tried the same trick, looking up grave marker photos.  Findagrave.com is very helpful.


Well, I found the other set of great-grands, and an entry for Gramps’ dad.  No photo, but it does have his obituary from 1936.


But I can’t find his wife.  No obituary (and she died in 1968).  No grave marker. No middle name. No nothing.  The closest I can get is a couple of census entries and her Social Security death record.  


She must be buried somewhere--but there’s no mention online.  It’s as if she’s been erased. It’s eerie.


On the other hand, it appears my dad’s other grandfather collapsed under slightly suspicious circumstances at home, where he was apparently living alone.  Since his wife didn’t die until almost twenty years later...where was she? They weren’t living together, in 1956? I know they weren’t divorced. I gotta ask Dad about this one.  

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