Tea and Dragons

Does anyone have a spare AO3 invite they'd be willing to give up? 

I've been pondering this for a day or so.  Postulated: a person obsessed with another, for years on end, to the exclusion of all other romantic attachments.  But without interfering, at all, in the object's life.  Is the obsessed person a stalker? 

For the purposes of this scenario, there is no Internet, and--because it's fiction--the obsessed person's pattern will not change to contact at a future point.  The object has no idea that the attachment is anything beyond, say, casual friendship, if that. 

Any opinions? 

I am way, way out of date.  Is there any other Trek book besides John M. Ford's How Much for Just the Planet? that uses the word "dagnabbit"?

Did Debra Messing have surgery to alter the shape of her nose? 

Has anyone out there listened to the audiobook version of Kushiel's Dart?  If so, what did you think?  I'm dreadfully picky about my audiobooks and the library system doesn't have a copy.  

I did look it up, but clinical descriptions are lacking.  Have any of you, gentle readers, experienced an ovarian cyst, and are you willing to describe the event?  I don't need a lot of detail, just an impression of what it was like. 

Thanks!!